It's natural for parents to protect the small children from possible
harm. However, it's not always true that the little ones are always
the ones who are being bullied or that we should forgive the little
ones because their judgment is not well developed. Sometimes, we
overlook our children's feelings but they would like us to be fair.
If you often take sides, your child may feel that you love him less
or not understand him, leading him to be frustrated and resentful
towards you and his sibling. Try to be impartial and open. Observe
the interactions between your children. Take their perspectives
and listen to what they feel. You may let the older child know that
you understand his feeling, e.g., 'You're so annoyed by your little
brother who keeps bothering you.' Then talk about other alternatives
with him. Also manage the younger child accordingly, such as distracting
him away from the older child and teaching him rules and logical
consequence. You may refer to the recording on "Noncompliance"