Start disciplining your toddler in a positive way


Titleļ¼šStart disciplining your toddler in a positive way

Heading: Start disciplining your toddler in a positive way

Narrator: With the advancement in the physical, intellectual and language development of the one-year-old, you need to show your child more about the world. Tell him what he can and cannot do. Starting positive discipline with your toddler now helps him to grow up into a cooperative child.

Scene: The parents encourage their boy to tidy up toys on the floor.

Sub-heading: 1. Encourage desirable behaviour

Scene: When the boy picks up the TV remote control, daddy waves his hand to indicate no and takes it away.

Narrator: Encourage your child's desirable behaviour so that she will be more likely to do it again.

Scene: Parents clap hands and give a thumb-up when girl puts toy into a basket. Girl also claps hands happily.

Sub-heading: 2. Set simple rules

Daddy: Wash your hands before dinner.

Narrator: You can set 3 to 4 simple rules for your child.

Scene: Daddy takes girl to sit at the dinner table after washing hands and says, "Sit down and eat." He then sit down together with mum and girl.

Narrator: Don't forget to set a good example for your child.

Scene: Daddy praises girl when she eats with a spoon.

Narrator: Set limits and boundaries such as keeping your child away from areas of potential danger.

Scene: Mummy is working in the kitchen with a shut child-proof gate. Girl approaches mummy and mummy tells her to stay in the dining room to play.

Sub-heading: 3. Assertive dicipline

Narrator: Give simple short and clear instructions for the child to follow.

Scene: Daddy takes child to the high chair at the dinner table.

Daddy: Stay in your seat.

Scene: Girl points to the other side.

Daddy: Not now. Stay in your seat.

Narrator: If your child follows, praise her such as touching her head and say "Well done". If she does not follow, you can repeat the instruction.

Scene: Girl cries aloud and doesn't want to sit down in the high chair. Daddy put her down in the high chair and repeat the instruction for her to seat.

Narrator: Then redirect her attention to something interesting. For example, mummy shows the girl's favourite dish to her and says, "Look. Yummy tomatoes."

Scene: Daddy praises the child for calming down and obeying.

Daddy: Good girl.

Sub-heading: 4. Stop misbehaviour immediately

Narrator: You have to stop your child's misbehaviour especially dangerous acts immediately. Then redirect her attention to other interesting activities.

Scene: Daddy stops child immediately when she touches a socket. He takes her away and gives her a toy to play with instead. He also places a socket cover on it.

Sub-heading: 5. Planned ignoring

Narrator: Throwing tantrum or having mild misbehaviour is common in toddlers. They may behave so as to draw your attention or to test whether you would do as you say.

Scene: Different situations with child screaming, casting toy intentionally, lying on the floor whining.

Narrator: You should pay no attention whatsoever to these mild misbehaviours.

Scene: Daddy turns away, neither look at nor respond to the child.

Narrator: Wait till he gradually quiets down himself. Then you can give attention to him again and praise him when appropriate.

Scene: Child gradually stops whining and daddy turns to him, talk to him, wipes his tears and play together.

Narrator: Remember, assertive discipline needs everyone in the family to be firm, consistent and follow through in managing your child's behaviour.